I received the topic from Arts Illustrated, I thought I am a female and
therefore this should come naturally to me. It did not. Paintings of
women since even before renaissance have always been beautiful, romantic
and passionate. The best actresses have all these traits.
care of yourself' is widely sold by media and people, a constant
reminder of wearing the femininity and re-touching it whenever we laugh
too hard or even use the washroom. Mystery has to be kept intact.
some time in introspection and looking at the mirror for the hundredth
time, I gave up and concluded, maybe I am a MAN. Being a man is more
comfortable since the first thing people recognize you with is a
'character', could be even frivolous for that matter but I am free to
With all the lost confidence I went back to the artwork, which
now just 'had' to be done. Once all the romance was lost, the facts
came in. Looking around I saw real people. People of all genders and
most of them do not fit nowhere completely. But still we all exist and
are constantly struggling to be free.Then why do we need definitions?
we still want definitions, there is one right here straight from
Google- Femininity is socially constructed, but made up of both
socially-defined and biologically-created factors. This makes it
distinct from the definition of the biological female sex as both men
and women can exhibit feminine traits. Knowledge liberates and yes it
This time I picked the brush and took a long breath and just let myself be.
sum it up, 'femininity' is a trait of personality, which cannot be
defined by any shape, curves or any form. Rather it is the bubble inside
each human being aspiring them to live and celebrate life, connecting
each to their true self inside.